We all have times in our lives when we are feeling sad or down about something for one reason or another.  One may walk around feeling totally drained, numb and basically not in tune with the best life has to offer.  This feeling can zap your energy, sabotage your joy and basically make you feel like a walking, stressed out mummy.

So what can one do when they are at a moment in their life where they are starving their soul of living life to the fullest, and of being happy and content in their own skin?

For starters they can become aware of that feeling, wake-up, create courage within, and begin taking the steps towards being pro-active in establishing their best life.

Here are some steps to take to turn your sad feeling into a happy one.

Step one–Feel happy that you are aware of your sad feeling.  This means you are alive, deep down you really do not want to stay the walking mummy you may now feel like, it is not who you really are.

Now that you want to change something you are not happy about, you can begin taking the steps to do so.   Know that this is an inside job it is your choice and no one else’s.  So feel happy that you can get going with this task right now, no need to wait for any one thing, it is all inside you.

You can take action towards changing that sad feeling.  You may not be able to change the situation, but you have the power within you to tackle the feeling, and create a happy one, along with creating things in your life that make you happy.  So feel happy that you are aware of your sad feeling, and take the steps to change that feeling into a happy one.

Step two—Since you are aware you are living in a moment of feeling sad about something and are not happy, you now have the power to choose to live in the moment, and be happy. You are of course allowed to acknowledge your sad feeling, but then let it go.  Do not let it control your essence.

Begin to live in the moment. By living in the moment, you can change those recent negative energy vibrations into happy, energized empowered vibrations.  You can begin to feel happy, and take those not so great energy vibrations and trash them; you can be empowered with the knowledge of knowing that what you send out is what you get back.  So, be aware that the more good energy vibrations you send out, the more you will attract those good energy levels back to you.

Step three—Now, let’s take a look at all the good things you can expect to pop into your life now that you chose to take the steps towards living in the moment.  For starters, you can treasure each moment for the precious moment that it is, and immerse yourself fully in creating the kind of moments you truly want in your life and enjoy them to the fullest extent.

Being in the moment also:

• Helps you to forgive and forget unhappy situations of the past.
• Helps you to not focus and worry about a future that is not here yet.
• Makes you much more confidant to make decisions based on now, not on what would’ve, could’ve, and should’ve been.
• Helps you to bring more passion into your intimate relationship now, without worrying about where you are going together. That moment will come on it’s own.
• Helps you to focus on the steps to take now, at this moment, to ensure you of achieving your goals quicker then you may have thought, because you are taking the steps, at this moment, each day to come a little closer to your wish.
• Being in the moment, gives you the chance to be at peace, and to be content and happy, not when something happens, but NOW.

Step four–Know that the emotional or physical pain you may feel, is good.  This means that you can now start peeling away at those deep layers of what is not working, and make a decision to start coming up with a better solution to your situation.  Make it start working towards your happiness, not against it.  Research, dig deep into your soul, meditate, and educate yourself to learn what you need to in order to change a situation.  Become focused, determined and strong to strive for the outcome you want.  Do not settle for anything less, you are too special.

Step five—Now that you are aware that you may not have been enjoying your journey to it’s fullest, wake-up and smell the roses.   When you stop taking for granted all that is around you, and begin to notice and appreciate it, your whole world opens up to beauty and love.

Start taking notice of an amazing rainstorm, a wonderful sunset, a beautiful baby laughing or crying, all the amazing different opportunities and variety in this world, great sex, empowering music, people we love, our family and our friends, etc. There is so much we have to be grateful for; I can’t even begin to touch the surface of it.  But notice it, be aware of it and appreciate it.

So there you have it.  Five reason to be happy you WERE sad, now you are on a different path one that leads towards your being happy.  Enjoy the journey, enjoy the change.  Begin now to only look for the silver lining.

© 2009 Lori Snyder

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The phoenix is known as a mythical bird with layers of very beautiful colorful feathers, and a tail of gold and scarlet.   It has a life cycle of around 500 to 1000 years, near the end of that cycle, it is said that the phoenix builds and creates itself a nest made of twigs that ignites; the bird and its nest are said to burn to ashes, and then the phoenix rises reborn and fresh, to live again. The new phoenix can live as long, or longer then its old self.  The tears of the phoenix are thought to contain amazing healing abilities of everything that is pure, and the cry of the phoenix is a beautiful song.

What are you crying out for?  It is very wise to look deep into yourself every once in awhile, and see how your needs are being met.  You have absolute responsibility to yourself to create a life that is nothing less then wonderful, enriching and enlightening for yourself, and for those you love, and who share this space with you in this amazing world.

In our everyday busy life, we sometimes tend to push our needs aside and not focus on them half as much as we should be.  Once you realize that the more you focus on your wants and needs, the more productive and happy, aware and strong you will be for yourself and for those around you.   That in turn will help all your relationships to flourish to its healthiest level of well-being.

Like the phoenix, I recently embarked on re-inventing some of the things I wanted to change in my life, and I also lost something I valued very much.   I began looking at everything in my life, and I also started making some changes in my personality that I wanted to shift.  It is great to learn from your mistakes, it is even better to incorporate those things you learn, and integrate them into your life, so you do not make those mistakes again.  That is why it is so wonderful to understand that we all have the power within us to change, grow, empower ourselves, and continuously nourish our hearts and soul.

Change is constant, and we have all the power within us to create the change we want.  We also have the choice of changing and growing with those around us who we love and value, or if need be, to let go of relationships that did not work with us to help each to inspire to their greatest level of wellness.

I am all about staying power in relationships, and working out issues that need to be dealt with, but when you are the only one caring and doing, you need to look at why you would settle for being treated and accepting such a thing.  You deserve the best, and until you feel that, and settle for nothing less, you will not get it.  Some things we do not have the power to shift, but you do have the power to shift your choices, decisions, and the way you let other people treat you.  Value yourself, and other people will then begin to value you as well.

So, what can one do to begin making shifts towards wellness?  I think one of the best ways is to first take time each week to get in touch with your inner self.  This can best be done in any type of activity that relaxes you, and gives you quiet time for yourself.  That may be to exercise, do yoga, meditate, take a walk, read a book, anything that helps you to relax.  Focus on looking within; question where you are now, and where you would like to be.   Are you happy in all your important relationships?  Are your needs being met?   Do any changes need to be made, issues to be talked about?  Are you happy with your career?  And, are you comfortable with your way of living?  Answering all these questions is important to begin getting a good hold on where you stand, and if you are happy in that standing.  If not, what changes can you start to make?  Don’t lie to yourself, take a good look, and have the guts to face what you are not happy with, and what you want to change.  Don’t push it to the back of your mind, and forget about it, deal with it.  Also know that you do not have to sacrifice something you love and cherish for something else, you can, and should have all that you want.

Be appreciative of who you are now, and of all the people around you who you love, and who love you.  Be gracious of all the good in your life, and think of ways you can help better someone else’s life.  Thanksgiving is coming, I have been donating what I can, and buying extra cans of food in the supermarket to give to those that need it.  What are you doing to help other people?

Be strong, regal and beautiful on the inside and out, and begin singing your song of acceptance, and pure love for who you are now, and who you want to be.  Come from a place of strength, and begin to reach for all that you want.  Spread your colorful feathers and sing your song.  Dig deep in your soul and soar like the phoenix to create rebirth.  Have the faith to know that you can create the change you want.

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© 2009 Lori Snyder

Have you ever had two thoughts about one situation?  And were those thoughts both positive and negative? I must tell you, when I recently had such an opposing thought, it really started me thinking about how our thoughts impact our lives.  Think about it, a few of the great universal laws ruling our wonderful planet say that you get back what you put out there.  Your thoughts are what you become; treat others, as you would want to be treated.  I can go on and on, attitude is everything, what you think, feel and believe, is what you will draw to you.  All of these statements are said to be true.

I can tell you from my own personal experience, and from what I have seen and heard from others, that once you become aware of the fact that you control the way you react to and perceive a situation, you will then be in a much better place to create the movement towards the direction you would like it to go.

To give a quick example, I have a good friend who was recently laid off from a job in the financial industry.  Instead of spending weeks and weeks in a negative flow of energy, he only spent a few days in that mode, and then picked himself up and started looking for another job in the same industry.

His though process shifted in those few days from, I can stay in this mind-space of negative, and just sit here and waddle in my unhappiness, or I can pick myself up and actively search out what I want for myself. I am very happy he chose to search out what he wanted.  His essence is way to amazing to just sit and waddle.

Low and behold, three weeks later, he found a fabulous job in the same field he was just laid off from, and it was an hour less commute to and from his office, as well as much brighter surroundings, and great people to work with.

Now if he would have stayed with a negative outlook, he could have gone on that interview with underlying energetic negativity, and he may not have been offered the position. People can pick up on the energy you bring to their space, and if does not feel good, they will tend to not want to be around you. So again, I am happy he snapped out of it and got his positive flow back in a short time frame.

Remember the saying, A positive attitude can move you in the direction of success, and a negative attitude can just as easily move you in the direction of despair. The way you react to things is how your surroundings will be lived. If you walk around all day with the poor me syndrome, you will be busy, busy thinking about everything that can go wrong, and you will spend most your time focusing on the negative, and will exhaust yourself before you can begin thinking in a positive mode.

What you need to be doing is to focus on the positive, and begin to create ways to dig deep to find your positive thoughts, as well as your inner strength, and then using it to create a successful outcome. I can’t stress enough the importance of thinking and being aware of your thought pattern.  Some people are so use to going straight to the negative, that most outcomes are not to their satisfaction. That is just not good enough for me, and it should not be good enough for you.

You have all the tools and all the power to think the way you choose, and that should be in a positive mode.  Too much is at stake for you to settle for a natural negative flow.

If you find that you lean more towards the negative then the positive, there are a few simple things you can do to shift that attitude.  The first thing to do is to become aware of the fact that you mostly think in a negative way.  Next try to figure out how, and where that thinking pattern may have begun.  If you cannot pinpoint exactly when flowing toward the negative began, it is no big deal, just start to now become conscious of shifting that thought process into a positive one.  You can also start using daily affirmations stating such simple truths as “ I am great and happy, because that is the way I choose to be, and I will deal with all situations in a positive way.”

The winner does take it all in life. That is because they have the mindset and the vision of a winner.  hey will not settle for anything less, and neither should you. Everyone in this world can be a winner; it is his or her choice.

© 2009 Lori Snyder

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